Jul 12, 2022 I Paul Seaburn

Kinks Founder Dave Davies Shares How ETs Altered His Sex Life

You may think you know the story behind the lyrics of “Lola,” the most famous song of Rock and Roll Hall of Fame members, The Kinks, but a new memoir by co-founder Dave Davies may reveal a secret inspiration – a sexual encounter with an extraterrestrial. And not just the usual alien ‘probing’ kind of encounter either … Dave Davies claims the extraterrestrials took over his sex life in order to take him “to a higher vibrational level.” A ‘good’ vibrational level? Does Brian Wilson know anything about this?

Well, I'm not the world's most physical guy

But when she squeezed me tight, she nearly broke my spine

Oh, my Lola


(“Lola” by The Kinks)

Was Lola an alien?

With his singer-songwriter older brother, Ray, lead guitarist Dave Davies founded The Kinks in 1963 and quickly topped the charts with their first hit, “You Really Got Me." The band was a key driver of the British Invasion of rock and roll, and its lyrical creativity and musical inventiveness continues to inspire bands to this day. While Ray Davies was the recognized band leader, Dave was a key developer of The Kinks’ unique sound, which he carried on with in his solo career. Hits like “You Really Got Me,” “Tired of Waiting for You” and “Set Me Free” sound like the usual boy-meets-girl-boy-loses-girl-boy-finds-new-girl rock songs, but Dave Davies’ real life was anything but that.

Well, I'm not dumb, but I can't understand

Why she walks like a woman and talks like a man

Oh, my Lola


(“Lola” by The Kinks)

In his first autobiography, “Kink,” Dave Davies tells of his unusual but conventional sex life – he was expelled from school at the age of 15 after being caught having sex with his girlfriend who later inspired "Funny Face" and "Mindless Child of Motherhood" and who he later reunited with, and his wife and other relationships that produced seven children. Davies also revealed his bisexuality, but the song “Lola” was always believed to be inspired by an encounter between the band’s manager and a cross-dresser.

“I’ve had several experiences seeing UFOs. It was really interesting. I saw them in north Devon in England — lights and zigzags in the skies. Then when I started to dig deeper into my experience, I understood I was also getting communications — psychic impressions — from aliens.”

In 2017, Dave Davies shared some of his UFO experiences in an interview with ‘Vulture’. He admitted getting involved with ufology and felt he was “having connections with the Dog Star, with Sirius. Sirius has very deep connections with Earth.” Devon is a known hotspot for UFOs and both Dave and his brother Ray admit to being spiritual people. However, he’s kept most of his UFO and ET experiences to himself … until now.

Living this way, each day is a dream

What am I, what are we supposed to do?

Living on a thin line (living on a thin line), ooh

Tell me now, what are we supposed to do?

(“Living on a Thin Line” by The Kinks)

Dave Davies’ new autobiography is called “Living on a Thin Line,” which is also the title of a song he wrote in 1984. In it, he reveals that he began having what he later deemed to be communications with aliens starting in 1982 while the band was on tour in the U.S. He refers to the ETs as "the intelligences" and says the first encounter was in Virginia.

“Things got weird very quickly. (I) began to feel oddly disembodied, like I was looking in from the outside. I couldn’t understand why I was feeling so peculiar. I didn’t feel physically ill. This was different. Suddenly I had a feeling like a boa constrictor had wrapped itself around my forehead and was pressing hard. What the f***?”

Now THAT sounds more like something a rock star would experience – especially from the generation that experimented with copious quantities of a wide variety of psychedelic drugs. In fact, that’s pretty much what Davies’ experience sounds like in the account in The Daily Star.

“It was like my brain had flicked on a new psychic switch. After the initial jolt, I didn’t feel panicked or alarmed. These voices had a commanding presence, but were also non-threatening, calming even. My senses were overwhelmed. Where were these voices coming from? Were they floating close by? Or an alien force from many thousand miles away? I began to feel their presence. I could already hear them. Then I felt them physically and my nostrils were filled with different smells – again nothing unpleasant or sinister. In fact, the smells – of fresh flowers like jasmine and magnolia – had a fragrance so full I felt like I could have scooped them up with a spoon.”

“A fragrance so full I felt like I could have scooped them up with a spoon.” Does that sound like an alien experience or rock song lyrics … or both? Davies seems to suggest that his experience with extraterrestrial communications was extremely pleasant for a while, but then things got strange when it came to sex … not with the aliens but with his girlfriend at the time (and mother of three of his children), Nancy Evans. He says a new kind of strangeness started when he reached over towards Nancy – he “became twitchy and suddenly convulsed with terror.” The aliens explained the problem.

“Their communications became more demanding, more challenging. They told me I must not have sex and, although I was able to walk normally, my groin and pelvis suddenly became numbed, like they’d blocked any sensation down there. The reason being, they told me, was they wanted to transmute my sexual energy to a higher vibrational level.”

In the hands of Beach Boy Brian Wilson this could sound like an alien love song, but Dave Davies doesn’t sound like he was in a loving relationship with “the intelligences.” They certainly weren’t Lola or any sexual partner he’d had in his life. Then what are they? Davies hinted in past interviews that he didn’t want to say anything about a possible connection to the government and what it might know about UFOs and aliens. However, the song “Living on a Thin Line” was partly inspired by his hatred of politicians, so he could still be a little fearful.

Grooving on the music of The Kinks?

Add Dave Davies’ name to the ever-growing list of musicians who have reported experiences with UFOIs and extraterrestrials. Is there a connection? Or do ETs think the music of the 1960s and 1970s is still the best music ever made?

Paul Seaburn

Paul Seaburn is the editor at Mysterious Universe and its most prolific writer. He’s written for TV shows such as "The Tonight Show", "Politically Incorrect" and an award-winning children’s program. He's been published in “The New York Times" and "Huffington Post” and has co-authored numerous collections of trivia, puzzles and humor. His “What in the World!” podcast is a fun look at the latest weird and paranormal news, strange sports stories and odd trivia. Paul likes to add a bit of humor to each MU post he crafts. After all, the mysterious doesn't always have to be serious.

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